Rubric for Repairing Relationships
Repairing relationships is a complex and sensitive process that involves various factors. Here's a rubric that focuses on key aspects of relationship repair:
Criteria:
1. Acknowledgment of Issues:
- Exceptional (5): Demonstrates a high level of awareness, openly acknowledging and understanding the issues that led to the strain in the relationship.
- Proficient (4): Generally acknowledges issues, with occasional lapses in fully understanding the depth of the problems.
- Competent (3): Shows some acknowledgment of issues, with room for improvement in fully understanding the root causes.
- Limited (2): Struggles with consistent acknowledgment, often minimizing the significance of the problems.
- Inadequate (1): Fails to acknowledge issues, exhibiting a lack of awareness regarding the problems in the relationship.
2. Effective Communication:
- Exceptional (5): Engages in open, honest, and respectful communication, actively listening to the concerns of the other party and expressing oneself clearly.
- Proficient (4): Generally communicates effectively, with occasional lapses in active listening or clear expression.
- Competent (3): Shows some proficiency in communication, with room for improvement in active listening and clarity.
- Limited (2): Struggles with consistent effective communication, often leading to misunderstandings.
- Inadequate (1): Fails to communicate effectively, frequently contributing to a lack of understanding and miscommunication.
3. Empathy and Understanding:
-Exceptional (5): Demonstrates a high level of empathy, actively seeking to understand the other person's perspective and feelings.
- Proficient (4): Generally exhibits empathy, with occasional lapses in fully understanding the emotional aspects of the relationship.
- Competent (3): Shows some empathy, with room for improvement in fully grasping the emotional nuances of the relationship.
- Limited (2): Struggles with consistent empathy, often overlooking or dismissing the emotional aspects of the relationship.
- Inadequate (1): Lacks empathy, frequently disregarding the other person's feelings and perspective.
4. Commitment to Change:
- Exceptional (5): Demonstrates a strong commitment to making necessary changes, taking proactive steps to address issues and prevent their recurrence.
- Proficient (4): Generally expresses commitment to change, with occasional lapses in consistency and follow-through.
- Competent (3): Shows some commitment to change, with room for improvement in taking proactive steps.
- Limited (2): Struggles with consistent commitment, often making promises without effective follow-through.
- Inadequate (1): Lacks commitment to change, frequently failing to take meaningful steps toward improvement.
5. Rebuilding Trust:
-Exceptional (5): Actively works towards rebuilding trust, demonstrating transparency, reliability, and a genuine effort to mend the broken trust.
- Proficient (4): Generally works towards rebuilding trust, with occasional challenges in maintaining transparency and reliability.
- Competent (3): Shows some effort in rebuilding trust, with room for improvement in consistent transparency and reliability.
- Limited (2): Struggles with consistent efforts to rebuild trust, often falling short of expectations.
- Inadequate (1): Fails to make meaningful efforts in rebuilding trust, frequently undermining trust through actions or words.
Scoring:
- Total points: 25
- Exceptional (21-25): Demonstrates a high level of proficiency in relationship repair.
- Proficient (16-20): Generally proficient but may need improvement in some areas.
- Competent (11-15): Demonstrates some aspects of the relationship repair process; improvement is needed.
- Limited (6-10): Struggles with consistent relationship repair practices; significant improvement is needed.
- Inadequate (1-5): Does not demonstrate effective relationship repair practices.
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Note: This rubric is a general guide and can be customized based on specific relationship dynamics or contextual considerations. Adjustments may be necessary to align with the unique characteristics of the relationship being assessed.
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